So you’ve probably reformatted and sent your resume to at least ten places by now. Your LinkedIn profile has perhaps been refurbished ten times over, too. And you’ve most likely consulted your HR friends for tips on how to please prospective employers.
But you were still passed over for somebody else.
If there’s something that countless job interviews, competitions (and, in my case, numerous casting calls) can teach you, it’s that rejections are completely and utterly normal.
Regardless of context, everyone – a big emphasis on everyone – has been rejected at some point in their lives.
But remember: everything happens for a reason. Everyone has failed at one point in their lives before they ended up becoming successful in what they’re doing now, right?
So what can you do in the meantime? The best way you can get through this is to shift your perspective and reflect in a positive light:
Don’t take it personally. Surely you’ve opened this article in the hopes of finding a way to remove how you feel but honestly, we can’t emphasize how important this is. If you don’t get a “yes” to a job offer, look at it from a positive perspective. Everybody has either failed or has been rejected at one point before they got to where they are now! Chances are, there are plenty of reasons that happened during the application process – the company might have either decided not to hire someone for that position. Or maybe they’ve decided that the job wasn’t a right fit for you. Either way, keep your chin up and don’t give up – some of these factors might also be beyond your control.
Take a breather. If you think you’ve made a mistake and you’re starting to feel pangs of regret, don’t blame yourself: you are human. Anyone can make mistakes. Instead, treat yourself to a good book, exercise or watch TV to take it out of your head. It can be mentally and emotionally exhausting to travel to different places alone and “market yourself” to different people, of course. But it’s okay!
Get used to hearing “no” every once in a while. Remember how you used to ask your parents or relatives to get you a toy but they’d refuse due to multiple reasons? The same principle applies when it comes to looking for a job; you can’t always get what you want. You may really, really want that job but again, you either get a yes or a no; there’s no in-between, but it’s okay.
Feedback matters. You can call your interviewers for feedback in the event that you don’t get a call back. Their responses can help you improve what you missed, which can inevitably help you prepare for your next job interview.
Change your approach. Do your skills and experience really match the positions you’re applying for? Maybe you can reevaluate your skills and job experience by determining which of them can really match certain job positions and make sure your resume and cover letters are focused on those skills. There are plenty of factors during the hiring process that can affect prospective employers’ decisions! At most, feel free to study what you can so you can improve and don’t overthink.
Keep practicing. Ask a friend you can practice with. If you have someone in your family or even one of your colleagues who can help you out on this, practice with them! You wouldn’t want to sound mechanical but you don’t need to come unprepared and stutter during the actual interview! Keep familiarizing yourself with commonly asked job questions and learn how to best engage with them!
Stay positive! We can’t emphasize the fact that it’s not the end of the world if you haven’t gotten that right job. Job rejections are simply redirections for something better. Again, people have failed plenty of times before they finally got the opportunities they’ve been looking for, and that’s how human resilience is built. Pick yourself up again and carry on!
Just remember: shake the blues off and keep applying! Being resilient, after all, means getting up after each setback. All it takes is hard work and determination, so never stop applying ‘til you get to the place that’s definitely meant for you.