Any parent would know that sending one’s child off to college is a nerve-racking experience as it is. It’s most likely the first time your child is making big decisions that will impact their future, and you anxiously hope all will turn out well. The stress is intensified by the fact that all you can do is let go and allow them to figure things out on their own.
Now top that off with the idea of sending your kid off to a distant place to study—away from you for weeks to months on end! It’s tempting to retreat and settle for a school close to home, even if it’s not the best option.
But as any supportive parent, you wouldn’t want them to miss out on an opportunity for the sake of some convenience. And this calls for the willingness to overcome obstacles in pursuit of a bright future for your child.
Here are 5 tips for ensuring their safety while they live in a college dorm on their own:
1. Find out which housing type meets your safety standards.
You might want to get an on-campus dorm so your child gets the added protection of an enclosed environment. It will also eliminate the daily hassle and cost of commuting to and from class. What’s more, a dorm supervisor would be there as substitute parent to enforce curfews and house rules.
If you want to give your child a little more freedom to learn some independence and responsibility, you can opt for a condo unit—a more lenient alternative that provides 24/7 security and additional facilities.
Uncomfortable with allowing your child to live all on their own? You could always find a shared (and even gender-exclusive) unit where tenants can split the cost of rent. Meanwhile, a more basic yet economical option is an apartment or boarding house.
2. Location, location, location.
Next, consider the surroundings of your housing choice. Is it accessible? Is it close to the grocery, convenience store, hospital or restaurants?
Most importantly, is the area well lit throughout the day? You want to be sure your child can safely walk home during the wee hours of the night after attending groupworks and school activities.
3. Befriend the person in charge of the place—be it the landlord, dorm supervisor or security guard.
This person could be your new best friend. They could help look out for your son or daughter while you’re not around.
Make sure you can contact the dorm manager in situations such as when your child will be home late or out of reach. Maintaining communication with a point person is especially important if your child has a medical condition.
4. Connect your child to a trusted family friend or relative in the area.
Introduce your child to this person or give them each other’s contact numbers. Both you and your college kid could find comfort in knowing they have someone and somewhere to run to in case of an emergency, or simply that they are not all alone in a new city.
5. Do a commute dry run with your child.
This is also a low-key opportunity to bond with them and go on a mini adventure before they go off to college. Explore the easiest route to and from school together. Getting frazzled by an unfamiliar route will be one less thing for your kid to worry about on their first day of school.
Now that geographical hurdles seem more manageable, it will be easier to let go of the worries and embrace the opportunities that await your child! Find out more about possible courses and colleges through www.edukasyon.ph.
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