Mothers are living proof that people learn best when taught out of love and, if you agree to that, then you can probably relate to former U.S. President Abraham Lincoln’s famous quote:
“All that I am, or hope to be, I owe to my angel mother.”
Whether your mom is one who takes care of the household full-time or works as the breadwinner of the family, there’s no denying that she has played a priceless role in your overall development. From being one of the primary sources of care and emotional strength to processing how one’s actions result in different consequences, mothers become educators by default.
To give you even more reasons to be amazed by a mom’s multiple roles, here’s a breakdown of the ways they contribute to a child’s development and learning process:
- They introduce life skills to us
Mothers are known to be one of the first teachers of an individual’s basic life skills. While fathers and other constant role models in a child’s home environment also develop this aspect, it is oftentimes the mother who is mainly responsible for this role. Some examples of essential life skills include: teaching kids to cross the road, demonstrating how to purchase fresh food at the market, allowing the child to listen and respond appropriately when talking to others, and other countless ways by which a child learns to navigate the world. Mothers are also responsible for instilling fundamental values in a child before s/he formally goes to school and interacts with other children with different beliefs and behaviors.
2. They are models of resilience
Arizona State University psychology professor Suniya S. Luthar, PhD, defines resilience as the positive ability to adapt despite risk. It is among the most common traits that mothers are known to possess and exhibit through the various challenges of life and parenthood. Many researches, including Luthar’s, agree with the idea that among all the possible factors that boost resilience, good parenting is the most significant. “Resilience rests, fundamentally, on relationships”, she says. Being constantly witnessed by a child, mothers serve as the most visible models of grit and determination that help them adapt to different psychological and physical challenges.
3. Their emotional strength plays a great role in developing ours
When mothers are emotionally strong and healthy, their kids are more likely to develop the necessary emotional skills they need to establish good relationships. A study was conducted by Amanda Sheffield Morris, PhD that involved a program intended to uplift mothers who were living in poverty. In the program, the participants were asked to attend weekly group sessions where their responsivity to children were promoted through the help of childhood agencies and primary-care sites. As expected, the children of the moms who were active and attended regularly proved to show fewer behavioral and socioemotional problems. “If you want a child to be functioning well,” says Luthar “tend to the person who’s tending the child.”
4. They are the first detectors of learning styles
In her article titled Mothers are at the Heart of Their Children’s Education, Jacquelin de Burca discusses how knowledge is picked up by a child during the earliest stages of being loved and nurtured by their mother. This process develops “attunement”, or how a parent reacts to the emotions and mood of their babies. Because of this, a mother has a greater ability to identify the intellectual strength or learning styles of the child and eventually develop these as they grow up. Examples of the types of learners are: visual learners, auditory learners, and logical learners (although we all grow up to becoming a certain combination of these).
Researches aside, there’s no doubt that mothers deserve recognition and support everyday; not only for being life-givers, but for being teachers as well. Literally speaking: where would we be without them?
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