“Ma, paturo po ako dito sa assignment ko” , “Pa, ano pong sagot dito?” —you’ve heard it all. From the moment they entered their first class in pre-school, you carefully watched and supported your child as they develop and advance with their education. From packing their lunches and preparing their school bags, to helping them with their school assignments, each one is a moment you surely didn’t want to miss.
But as your children grow up, the same techniques may not always be as effective as when they were young.
Moving up to senior high school is one of the biggest leaps in your child’s education. It is exciting and challenging at the same time. As much as you want your child to do well in school, sometimes, it seems difficult to figure out how to support them, especially in a time when your involvement is critical to their development. So how can you facilitate a more independent style of learning? Here are some ways to deal with your child’s homework—without providing them all the answers!
1. Encourage healthy study-habits by:
Providing a conducive environment
The first step to helping your child is to develop healthy study habits that they can follow. You can show your support by making sure your child has a homework-friendly area where they can review their lessons, or do their projects. Bonus tip: Keep their fave supplies like pens, papers, scissors, and organizers within their reach.
Keeping distractions away
Things that can distract them such as T.V, loud music or conversations should be kept from a distance as much as possible. Even their phones can be a distraction too, so it’s important to set clear boundaries in phone usage especially during study time.
Getting them organized
Is your child having trouble in organizing? Help them make a plan by breaking up big tasks into smaller chunks. Create a calendar with dates for exams, long-term projects, and daily activities so that they can track the timeline for when tasks should be accomplished on time.
Giving breaks between study hours
To keep up with all the academic demands, it is a common sight for students to stay up all night juggling all sorts of school assignments. However, it is also important to make sure that your child gets enough rest and extra-curricular activities so they won’t get burnt out. Together, you and your child can figure out a regular study time that best works for them.
2. Support them with a positive, ready-to-learn attitude by:
Asking for help from others
It’s been decades since you’ve had lessons in Statistics and now your child is home with a bunch of books and homework to answer. If you don’t feel capable enough to help your child with their assignment, there are other ways you can support them. You may not understand every subject but you can have a talk with them and listen to what your child is struggling with during class. Is there an instruction in their assignment that they did not get clearly? You can contact their teachers for clarification, or help them in asking other classmates or people who are more knowledgeable in the subject.
Looking for alternatives
Remember, you don’t have to learn everything yourself. You can still help your child with their lessons by encouraging them to try other supplementary learning platforms like educational videos, online courses, and educational apps. Joining organizations, extra-curricular activities, or volunteering can also help increase their interest in school.
Is your child having a hard time understanding Physics? Why not take him to an interactive science gallery like The Mind Museum? Do they need some writing inspiration for their 21st century Literature subject? You can set a movie night with the whole family with a theme based on some of the greatest literary treasures in history. The possibilities are endless!
3. Guide them towards self-sufficiency by:
Providing a genuine support system
Parent involvement tends to drop significantly as students move from pre-school to high school. However, with all the mental, physical, and emotional demands of higher education, this is also a time when students need parental guidance the most. Showing and making them feel your genuine love and support is the best way to help them get through their struggles. Let your teen know that they don’t have to face senior high alone.
Assisting them, but not doing it all
Encourage your child to voice out their concerns, but you don’t have to solve it all for them. Let them try to address these problems themselves. Listen to your teen and together, you can weigh options and come up with the best solutions. The goal is to guide them in becoming self-sufficient and independent, in order to get the most out of their senior high school.
With these in mind, you are not only able to support them with their studies, but also prepare your children as a responsible adult in the future.